But implicit in this tragic loss by a distressed pro se litigant is a failure to follow Mr. Roper's oft repeated suggest: "Read the Rules, Read the Rules, READ THE RULES!" Mr. Roper often followed up this suggestion with the further recommendation: "Be sure to read the cases on the Rules and to consult the comparable Federal cases on the Federal Rule equivalents!". (I am quoting/paraphrasing from memory so if I am misquoting Mr. Roper, please accept my apologies.)
I think you captured the essence of it. This is also what Mr. Roper told me.
Mr. Roper also encouraged me to consult the Federal Rules treatise by Miller & Wright and the Federal Practice treatise by Moore, as well.
These are really terrific resources although you will have to go to a law library to find them:
Charles Alan Wright and Arthur R. Miller, Federal practice and procedure (St. Paul, MN: West Publishing) LOC Call No. KF9619 .W7
James William Moore, Moore's Federal Practice (NY: Matthew Binder) LOC Call No. KF8820.A313
When I told an attorney that I had gotten some suggestions from another pro se litigant, he told me that this kind of advice is useless and that I needed an attorney. When I mentioned that the advice was to read the rules and cases and also the references to Wright and Miller and to Moore's Federal Practice, he said "That is really good advice!".